Quarter Life Crisis

This is one of the forwards i got from one of my close friends and liked it very much, that i thought it would be great to put it here for others..


BEING IN TWENTIES - SOMETHING

It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are many things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like.
You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now.

You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met, and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you don't recognize is that they are realizing that too, and aren't really cold, catty, mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you.
You look at your job... and it is not even close to what you thought you would be doing, or maybe you are looking for a job and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you.
Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and are constantly adding things to your list of what is acceptable and what isn't. One minute, you are insecure and then the next, secure.
You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life, but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away, and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.
You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you. Or you lie in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough that you want to get to know better. Or maybe you love someone but love someone else too and cannot figure out why you're doing this because
you know that you aren't a bad person. One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap. Getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic. You go through the same emotions and questions over and over, and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision. You worry about loans, money, the future and making a life for yourself... and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender!
What you may not realize is that every one reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out. Send this to your twenty-something friends... maybe it will help someone feel like they aren't alone in their state of confusion...
We call it the "Quarter-life Crisis."

Kissa Kiss ka

Well I know that you would be wondering why I the world I’m writing on this issue of kiss, no I haven’t got my first kiss as yet from any girl cause I’m not having any girlfriend as of now ;). Kiss can be of many forms, the kiss given by small kids, or the kiss given by parents to their kids showing affection or the first kiss given by a girl/guy to his/ her partner. Actually there are many styles of kissing, French, Indian, check a peek Hmm affection it is but it can be of many types.

Now what is the kissa I’m talking about Is what happened few months ago. I had exams in the afternoon and was just having a final glance at the books while sitting in my balcony and suddenly a car comes and stands in front of my house gate, this car was one of the pretty luxurious one’s, the guy sitting in the drivers seat was also well dressed. Ab hua ye ki I had a curiosity as to who is this person and that too stopping in front of my house, there was no traffic on the road and there was no reason I could figure out to have a stop gap, so I stood up and while I was seeing the guy in the drivers seat pulled a women (or girl I’m not too sure) towards him and engrossed himself into a French kiss :O which lasted for a minute I guess, after which he promptly moved to his destination, Keeping me dumbstruck. Did someone say that there is very less privacy in Mumbai, well seemed so….

Happy Diwali

Hi all
Its back again, the festival of light. Wishing you all a happy and prosperous diwali. Let god shower all the blessings on you and your family and fill your life with joy and happiness.

Wishing you all a Happy diwali

What Kind of Intelligence Do You Have?

Your Dominant Intelligence is Spatial Intelligence

You've got a good sense of space and how the world around you looks. You can close your eyes and "see" images. You have innate artistic talent. An eye for color and shapes, you're also a natural designer. Since you think in pictures, visual aids and demonstartions help you learn best. You would make a good navigator, sculptor, visual artist, inventor, architect, interior designer, or engineer.

What Kind of Intelligence Do You Have?

Orkut - Bringing world close yet so far

I'm updating my blog after a very very long time. I neither had time nor any topics to write about. Initially i used to blog since most of my friends had one and it was kinda race against them, or probably moving along with them in this fast moving time and world. But now its more for me, i just couldn't share few things to my friends but had to vent out few things from my head so thought this would be a better platform. Since most of the people who regularly visit my blog know that i'm busy and maybe wont turn here for a good long time.

They say world is round, very true with the invention of Internet it has not only made round but also small. So if someone is hooked on to Internet then you are sure to find them the only thing that will differ is the time. Google as ever comes out with very great things and one of which is Orkut. I would have joined it much much later, but thanks to nagesh and abhijit i joined this next thing called Orkut. I know most of you reading this would be having an account on Orkut, and probably many a friends too, well thats what it was meant to be, a social networking site.

Initially it was just another site, but things changed when i stared to get new friends, even some of the long lost friends of my school days and this went on to change my life to a great extent. It was not only chatting online but also meeting them offline, face to face, know them through meets and treks. This even happens today but i just can't find time to join them due to my concentration towards my career. While this happened i can say i was addicted to Orkut, probably more than 8 hours a day you could find me online on orkut. While there were none to chat i started to explore orkut. It was really fun to go through scrap books of others (I know its not ethical but you have agreed to keep your informations open for public), knowing things which only very few were aware of, sharing these findings with my newly found friends. Even today i did the same thing, while searching for someone, hoping that he had joined orkut i came across one of my friend who had left orkut quite a long time ago and didn't really had contact for a long time, even though staying in the same city. More shocked was i to find my friend committed, well its a good news . So it was again the desire to unearth few more hidden secrets and after going through scraps of many a people i could pin point it to the person with whom my friend was committed. The most startling was to find that it was none other than one of my friend (and the least expected one) and was in the same circle and known for a long time. I'm excited and happy for them but only thing remains that when it is disclosed to the other people. I'm sure the people who are in touch with them would know about it. So till the beans are not spilled (even i'm not too sure of it, and since they happen to be my close friends its may go the other way if it were not true) by them, i'll rather keep my mouth shut.

Just like waves come and go in the ocean, friends have come and are going away, the only thing i don't know is how far they have reached.
I don't know if i'll ever continue this hobby of mine but till (i unearth some more findings) then have a nice time.

Marriage - Love or Arranged ???

Marriage, as we read this word it brings in smile on our face accompanied with the thoughts of an occasion for fun, celebration etc etc.. The views are different to different people, for some it’s a source of some quick income, for some it’s a heavenly accord that is being decided by god, for some it is to have steamy nights after long days hardwork, for some its to have a partner who will be with you till you live or she lives sharing all the happiness and sorrows and also be a supportive partner in your life. The views or definitions vary from person to person. In one of the discussion with my grandfather, he told me that "be it love marriage or arranged marriage both have to compromise otherwise you will not lead a good life together or rather the marriage may not be successful". There are majorly two types of marriages one is arranged and one is love marriage. If it’s an arranged marriage then its like one of the Hindi movies "Stay Happily married ever after" which would be in a loop condition throughout generations. But when it comes to love marriages rules are different from couple to couple. If I was to sit and argue on love and arranged marriages it would go on from dawn to dusk but still the argument will never have a conclusion unless someone backs off or agree to each other’s points. Anyone would give me an example of the so-called arranged marriage ending up in utter failure to a grand success and the same with love marriage.

Some of the questions that arise in my mind is that why do we bother so much on these issues, well we have to, it’s the question of whole life you see, its not like changing your clothes or television once its old or you don’t like it, you will have to live your life with her. So why can’t we try live in relationship!!! Naah its not meant for our society, it was made by the westerners and they don’t suite to our traditions and values etc etc. Now if I were to say that I like a girl and end up in a love marriage then I would have two set of people with different set of views, one would be those who are ok with this thing and would support me, on the other hand there would be people who would be raising tantrums and would pester, torture me to change my decision. Now the question is who are these people to decide for my life. After marriage it will be me and my wife and my parents who would be living with me and these people don’t come into picture at all. Arey as somebody said that man is a social animal, he has to live in this society and he has to be in tandem with the society. Very true, man has to socialize but for this has he to sacrifice his wishes and happiness??. There is a small sector of people who I don’t know what happens to then but talk a lot about these issues. I have heard people discussing that "To ve, tane love marriage kornu ghetile"(Ahh he.. he ended up in love marriage) or " Ti ve dhaunu vardhika kornu ghetile" (Oh she ? she ran and got married). They even make fun of them too and some even cross the limit of hypocrisy as to they wouldn’t allow their children to mingle with the couple, its ok if they are aware that their own kids had a high school or a college love affair. Now being in mumbai for about 2 and a half year and seeing life which runs rather than moves, where people are least bothered about the person staying in the opposite door and the most common statement "Fast life" and "Uber cool " lifestyle is the funda of people about life. Some people pretend to be broad-minded just to show that they going along with the changing world and are cool about these issues, but to what extent they themselves don't know. Seeing the lives and mindset of people from the small city where i came from to the metropolitan lifestyle there is a big difference. One thing common is that they want to emulate someone else, like the small cities want to be like metros, and the people in metros want to follow the westerners.

Now coming back to the issue if the love marriage were to fail there would be the same people coming back and laughing at this point too, adding some salt to the wounds. Recently I read in an article that about a wedding of Indian couple who stay in UK in which both of them didn't knew that there are any categories or types of marriages like love and arranged, the reason was simple they don't have bifurcated the system of marriage into and arranged and love.

In the end all or some of these things go into minds of people of my genre who are in a relationship or want to be or are thinking about getting married. But the best solution to these aspects I dunno as of now, maybe a bit more of experience of life, some more news can get some feasible solution.

This day that year - Day 2

Sorry for taking such a long time to finish of this part even after repeated reminders. I couldn’t complete this due to unavailability of time. So here is the second and the concluding part of my experience “This day that year”.

After catching some sleep in the breezy night I woke up at 7 in the morning and went out near station to take toll of the situation, but it was still drizzling. There was no point in returning back home as most of the places would be still flooded and having just a little above 100 rupees I thought of going to the nearest STM to withdraw some money for some urgent requirement. Hoping against hope that the ATM would be working went to old panvel. Most of the shops were closed and hotels too. There was nothing to offer to eat at any hotels or the road side tapriwalas. I reached the ATM center only to find “This ATM is out of order, please nearest ATM center” displayed on the ATM screen. With no other ATM machine nearby I started to walk back to the station, luckily I found a place where there was something to eat. By the time I reached there he had only one samosa and he was preparing vadapav. Having the single samosa and a plate of vadapav. On the way back to the station I took some paracetamol tablets for emergency sake. In the station there were very few people and I could get a place to sit on the chair which is meant for waiting purpose. Sitting there I was listening to radio hoping to get some news of the situations around. It was nice to hear the RJ’s helping out people in locating their near and dear ones instead of playing ads in between songs. I couldn’t continue this long as I had to keep a tab on my battery too, so it was better that I had kept it switch off. Finally when the rains stopped I thought of going near my house. I could see about 2 to 3 inch of mud on the road which I normally used to reach home, most of the people out on the streets, some trying to find milk or eatables and some cleaning up their house which was filed up with mud which had come with the water. Reaching near the road near the garden I could still see water which had not receded yet. On inquiring with some people nearby they told that there is still about 6 to 8 feet water on the road and I had to cross that road in order to reach my home. It didn’t strike me that I could use the highway route to reach my home. I stood there for few more minutes and could see people helping others crossing road even with water at neck deep height. Finally I decided to go back to the station and try going back home a little later but also thinking about the damage the deluge would have done.

At about 2 in the afternoon I started back again but this time from the highway route which is very long one. Though there was water at thigh high level I could manage to reach my home. On opening the door I could find most of my belongings standing back at the entrance door. I had to struggle hard to open the door since it got bloated due to the wetness. It was a complete mess with mud all over the floor and most of my books, clothes bags in drenched with mud. Even the almost full LPG cylinder had floated to some other place in the water. With very little water, which I got from the still falling rains I cleaned the whole house and the clothes books whatever I could, getting it to some better position than earlier. My neighbors were also busy in cleaning their house. Finally after about two hours of cleaning I could get rid of the mud that lies in my house and moved on to my aunt’s house for that night. I had it cleaned finally only on Friday since water was supplied for the whole day and I could do the remaining cleaning of the house.

This is one experience I will not be able to forget in my life, though it was a real bad experience it had thought me something. Maybe next time I could handle such situations better.